Loss/Grief

We learned in mid-January that our third pregnancy resulted in miscarriage. Since then, we have been navigating the grief of this loss, and thought it poignant to address the topic of loss in general in a newsletter format. This month will be a little heavier on the “read” side of things:

• Read: In Get it Together: Organize Your Records So Your Family Won’t Have To, Melanie Cullen provides a compassionate guide to end-of-life planning. No one wants to think about their own death or what happens once they’re gone; the same goes for thinking about the death of a loved one. But without proper planning, this grief-filled inevitability can be fraught with frustration, added pain, and legal issues for those left behind. Aside from the emotional weight, thinking through every element of a death and getting everything organized can be overwhelming. Cullen’s clear-eyed guide will help to make the process as smooth as possible.
• Read: This very brief article from Dave Ramsey places emphasis on creating and maintaining a Legacy Drawer. He recommends having 11 things in said drawer, including a cover letter, funeral instructions, insurance policies, and monthly budget. It is worth noting that current clients have much of what is recommended to have in a Legacy Drawer through your subscription to Right Capital, but not everything is contained there. Take some time to fill in whatever gaps are present.
• Read: Should you take out a life insurance policy on your child(ren)? I give an emphatic “no!” Read 6 Reasons Why NOT To Buy Life Insurance for Your Children for a series of excellent reasons why purchasing a policy is a bad idea.
• Read: My wife and I found a lot of solace in reading through Grieving Together: A Couple’s Journey Through Miscarriage by Franco and Laura Fanucci. Not only did this couple experience similar grief as we in the realm of infertility and miscarriage, but they also chronicle the deaths of their identical twin girls at 22 weeks. It is an inspiring book, discussing the impact of grief on the physical, spiritual, and emotional planes of both father and mother.
• Watch: In this touching tribute to his wife who died from complications of ovarian cancer, Jason Rosenthal offers candid insights on the often excruciating process of moving through and with loss — as well as some quiet wisdom for anyone else experiencing life-changing grief.

One last note: an incredible consolation we received through genetic testing was finding out our little one is a girl; we named her Dorothy Rose Michelle.

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